One of my favorite people in the world is my 89 year old grandmother and as she gets up there in age, I'm beginning to wonder what the best method of care is as we get older. It's different living with someone who's elderly, an eye-opening front row seat to what will happen when we get older, how dependent we will be on our loved ones or other people.
I always thought that I would be taking care of my parents as they get on in age, but I never really considered what taking care of will mean. I figured that it would be the just one kind of care... I never figured that there would be different kinds that could make a huge difference in the lifestyle we afford our elderly but that each option is meant with the same kind of love and attention.
My grandmother is 89 years old and she’s always been strong and clever and accomplished. I’ve lived with her for five years already and I never really noticed great big changes about her. It’s only when family comes to visit and they point it out that I am able to take a step back and go “huh. You’re right, she is more frail than she used to be.”
But the last couple of years have changed it. Sure, she’s old but I feel like living with her gives me a front-row seat to her deterioration. She was diagnosed with Parkinson’s a year ago but her moments of forgetfulness always felt like it was more old age than anything. The last few months, the shaking has started and even I’ve gotten used to that.
But she was hospitalized a week ago for mild pneumonia, just as a precaution. When she got back from the hospital, things changed really fast. The day after she came back, it felt like her mind had just taken a huge blow. There’s dementia (a horrible terrible sounding word) but worse, that could just be a symptom of Alzheimer’s, I don’t know
Abbi is a petite human, blogger, amateur photographer, permanent humanitarian, avid traveller, culture addict, giant bookworm and impossible foodie.